New Rules for Requesting Songs at a Wedding

Over the last 10 years as a DJ, I’ve heard requests of all kinds. Crazy songs selections and reasons why I need to play your song.  But as the 2015 wedding season ramps up I put together a short list of items to keep in mind when requesting music at a wedding.  What are your thoughts?

1. Leave the wedding couple alone

Seriously, please don’t bother them.  Please don’t rush over the the wedding couple and say, “the DJ hasn’t played my song yet.”  The newlyweds have spent time working with their DJ to ensure the right music is played throughout the evening based on their tastes.  The day goes by quick for them and asking them to take time out of the evening so you can hear your song isn’t necessary.

2. Don’t request your wedding song

I understand the sentimental value your wedding song has to you and your spouse, but wedding songs are often lesser known songs that may not have mass appeal, especially depending on the year you were married.  As the DJ, I only have room for a set number of slow songs which are often predetermined by the wedding couple.

3. Take a hint but don’t take it personally

The song you requested may be a great request but it may not fit the evening.   Or it could just happen to be on the couple’s Do Not Play list.  If this is the case the DJ may politely say, ‘I don’t have that song,’ or ‘That may not fit the evening’s theme.’  If the DJ stated it doesn’t fit based on the Do Not Play list, don’t take it personally.  Then refer to rule #1, please don’t try to convince the couple the song should be played.

4. Be Patient

You requested the perfect song and the DJ agrees, but that doesn’t mean it will be played next.  Be patient with your request.  If the dance floor is packed and the DJ is playing a high energy song, it may take some time to slow down the dance floor in order to play your request.